From Repression & Obsession to Wholeness-of-Being
Are you stuck in your head? Do you have a low grade feeling of anxiety rather than wholeness-of-being?
If you pause long enough to feel or listen to your underlying experience of your sense of self, you most likely will encounter a feeling of anxiety or emotions of deficiency in some way. You may feel a lingering physical tightness, mental racing, and feel like you can’t quite fully settle down. You may feel a sense of inner hollowness that you unconsciously spend the rest of your life trying to fill up. You begin to look for love in all the wrong places. TV rituals or a bottle of wine sooth these discomforts for a while but never last for long.
You may feel the impact of stress and conflict all too much. Your obsessive emotions consume you to the exclusion of a larger perspective. Or, you may repress your responses to stress and conflict. Either way, when you’re engulfed in thought or distracted you simply aren’t aware enough to manage life skillfully.
Whether you fixate on emotion or dissociate from emotion, you cannot access the core experience of wholeness-of-being and inner-peace that develops as a result of the right kind of support. You lose touch with having a clear body-felt experience of life under duress. Without an awareness of your body, and/or without a core feeling of well-being underlying the emotion of the moment, your internal reference for what you feel and who you authentically are becomes vague. Without this internal sense of identity and wholeness-of-being, anxiety or strong longings and aversions develop, plus your ability to manage stressful situations suffers.
What you obsess upon or repress never goes away or dies, it simply hounds you or goes underground. In times of personal transition, or in times of crisis (midlife crisis, late life crisis, menopausal crisis, whatever crisis) you come face to face with the powerful impact your life situation has on you. Those conflicted or denied aspects of your essential nature come racing to the forefront. Experiences that make you doubt your normal way of doing things, that overwhelm you, touch you deeply, or that make you become conscious of your limits, can stir you up and awaken an experience of what you have repressed.
Times of transition or stress/crisis evoke this response because they can shake things up. Yet in times of transition and crisis you also have the choice to do things differently, in a way that reflects your authentic self. The Chinese pictograph for the word Crisis reflects this choice. The pictograph is comprised of two different characters: Danger and Opportunity. The danger is that you’ll get caught in your recurring emotional themes of injury. The opportunity is that you’ll choose to reassemble the fragmented pieces of yourself in a new way, one that is honest and reflects the authentic truths you have repressed.
Manifesting opportunity in your life begins with cultivating mind and body presence, and attunement to the essential qualities of you most authentic sense of your Self. Healing profound feelings of vulnerability, or other deeply disturbing emotions, requires this self level of self-recognition. Our desire and efforts to feel healthy and happy, or for spiritual awakening, uncover our wound of separation from this authentic core of our life.
In all meaningful relationships, issues of selfhood influence the quality of your relationship. It directly influences how you connect and develop a bond with others, and how you establish honest personal boundaries that reflect your personal needs rather than your fear of disappointing others.
Somatic (body) psychology and ancient yoga skills can be very effective in addressing the underlying body expression of an injury, such as the repetitive physical sensations, movement inhibitions, and sensory intrusions so typical of unresolved injury and trauma. Only when the body expression is understood and re-patterned can profound healing happen.
Integrating traditional psychology’s analytic approach with mind-body practices brings together the intelligence of the mind and the wisdom of the body. Through use of body sensation, movement, breath, visualization, meditation, and touch when appropriate, the body’s healing properties come to life. By actively incorporating the body into your healing journey you achieve a more unified mind-body approach to treatment of emotional injury.
When emotional injury is explored within a respectful, supportive, emotionally attuned therapeutic relationship, awakening your essential nature becomes easy. This process gets to the root of your psyche. You begin to recognize your deepest responses to life challenges and learn to guide them skillfully so you can promote change in your thoughts and beliefs, emotions, and capacity for you to be able to develop healthy, satisfying relationships.
To learn more about this therapeutic, healing approach, contact me at www.DrZeb.com, call for a free 30 minute conversation, or come to my on-going, drop-in Monday 5:45 pm Ashland class: Mindful Embodiment for Emotional Health.